Happy Labor Day!

On a recent consultation, I get very worried when someone felt they were going to transition, within a short amount of time. Often, this happens when working with a gender therapists, they encourage the girl to have a one year, real life test, while obtaining hormones. While I understand the process, I see another side …of the transition. “Time”.

 Many tg women, simply need more time to establish their look, their confidence, and their job security. I suggest a one year, two year, three year time line. Make your own time line based on your financial status, body type, and where you are on the GID spectrum.  First, place the “have to” items you will need to put income aside for. This would be electrolisis for the heavy beard area, therapy, and basic clothing that fits and is comfortable, that fits your life style. In the second year, I suggest investing in any hair applications, even hair plugs for the male receding area. Or, if you do have thin, but some balding…then plan on having a “partial” made…which uses your male hair and is made with “holes” to pull your own hair through and your male hair and the partial are blended together for fuller, longer hair…and they can include bangs on your partial.  These are great, and I had my first partial made, over 12 years ago, when I want “more hair” for an evening gown event. Next, dental work. Or, any skin repair. Next, if you can plan on any facial work–as most genetic born males have larger noses, this might be one area, (with the adams apple) you would consider doing. I don’t always agree, everyone needs all the major facial surgery, as “some” facial surgery is often best and is more affordable for a majority of girls.

 One needs, a few key pieces for their wardrobe, that are quality…such as a great leather hand-bag, a quality winter coat, several pair of quality shoes, that don’t hurt your feet. And, losing weight, before you invest in these more expensive items.  Think about the time line that is right for you, and don’t let anyone push you any faster than you can “afford” to go. Slow it down, and do it right! And, you will look much prettier, with the right amount of time and energy put in. If one hasn’t lost any weight, or learned to curl their wig/parital/hair, or obtained a new voice that is comfortable to use most of the time, then please don’t think just taking hormones will make you into a beautiful woman. Write down all the areas you need to work on, how much money and time… it will take to “get it right”. And how this fits into your family obligations. Fight the impulse, to jump. I have to say it again, this is a process, and there is no “quick” goal. If it were that simple, we would see more girls transitioning, and looking wonderful, keeping their jobs and family. I have a group of clients, that I always say….are my very best. What sets them apart? They have worked on their feminine look, very hard, for years. This is the only way, one can afford to do this, anyway!

What are your goals? What areas do you need to really work on, before you will really look the way you want? What is your financial status? Most, need to continue to work in guy mode to pay the bills and to finance looking better.

If you have previous experience, please email me…and I would love to post your experience.

PS: There are some great Labor Day sales summer items.

Denae

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