Comments on: Passing…an article written by a CD. http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/ Beauty And Image Related Help For The Serious TG Woman. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:43:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: Mana http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-503 Sun, 01 Jul 2007 05:28:34 +0000 http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-503 Wow, I came across this article actually when I was thinking about this just earlier today after I had been out all day dressed up. I definetly agree with Jamie about how we should dress up more in public even if not passing, because others like us may see it and get rid of their worries. Even if we are perceived "as men", it is still "men dressed good." Look for example (even though it's exagerated of course) the looks of males over in some of the Japanese scenes of visual kei or gothic lolita for instance (even some of their regular street fashions) and you will see that feminine looks aren't just for genetic girls. Femininity isn't biological, it's something achieved without but it starts within. Whether that means simple crossdressing or androgynity (achieving looks), or even up to transgender or transexual (physical change as well as outer). Well, I think you all know what I mean, even if I didn't express it too well. lol. :) Wow, I came across this article actually when I was thinking about this just earlier today after I had been out all day dressed up. I definetly agree with Jamie about how we should dress up more in public even if not passing, because others like us may see it and get rid of their worries. Even if we are perceived “as men”, it is still “men dressed good.” Look for example (even though it’s exagerated of course) the looks of males over in some of the Japanese scenes of visual kei or gothic lolita for instance (even some of their regular street fashions) and you will see that feminine looks aren’t just for genetic girls. Femininity isn’t biological, it’s something achieved without but it starts within. Whether that means simple crossdressing or androgynity (achieving looks), or even up to transgender or transexual (physical change as well as outer). Well, I think you all know what I mean, even if I didn’t express it too well. lol. :)

]]> by: Lisa http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-500 Sat, 30 Jun 2007 04:50:21 +0000 http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-500 It is usually hard to exactly gauge how often any TG woman passes. I have lived 24/7 as a female since mid 2002 and have been post op for going on three years - so I've been legally a woman for awhile in all respects. If I were only three inches shorter I'm sure I wouldn't fret about it as much as I sometimes do - but I'm about 6'0" and as many of you know that draws more scrutiny -but it can be done - Sigourney Weaver is that tall, Geena Davis is a bit taller. And there are others as tall or taller. Michigan State had a freshman basketball player last year who is 6'9". I know I pass with some, I've had women who wanted to compare menopause notes with me. Men I go out with have no clue. I'm not sure other times, it depends on the day and where I am. Voice wise no problem - it took me about seven months at the start, but I have been exclusively ma'am ed, even on cold calls, since. But visually sometimes it drives me nuts thinking about it. I discount men, I know why they are looking at me. But I still occasionally get a "look", usually from a matronly middle aged woman. Almost always it strikes me as either a questioning look or a there is a tall girl look - but sometimes I do see the other look and I think I'm being clocked. It's an odd puzzle - at the same time I play coed softball, no one has questioned my gender. I also play in my city's very competitive amateur women's basketball league, and again no one has questioned me as a woman at all. I know other full time TS women who are just happy they've transitioned and can wear a dress now and then - they don't care - and most sound like James Earl Jones when they talk as well. I will not be totally at peace till everyone everywhere and in any circumstance don't at all question me as a full fledged female. That's why I will in the next few years undergo more surgery, mostly facially - as much for me as others - though my face has softened and become more feminine ( I am not brow bossed at all, my nose is fine, I was halfway there before I even started) I can still see vestiges of the old me there. I also have Denae's vol 1 intro video, just ordered vol 2, and will order all six of them - they are very helpful. Just a last thought about confidence - it's crucial but the rest of it, the preponderance of clues, has to say woman too. It is usually hard to exactly gauge how often any TG woman passes. I have lived 24/7 as a female since mid 2002 and have been post op for going on three years - so I’ve been legally a woman for awhile in all respects.

If I were only three inches shorter I’m sure I wouldn’t fret about it as much as I sometimes do - but I’m about 6′0″ and as many of you know that draws more scrutiny -but it can be done - Sigourney Weaver is that tall, Geena Davis is a bit taller. And there are others as tall or taller. Michigan State had a freshman basketball player last year who is 6′9″.

I know I pass with some, I’ve had women who wanted to compare menopause notes with me. Men I go out with have no clue. I’m not sure other times, it depends on the day and where I am.

Voice wise no problem - it took me about seven months at the start, but I have been exclusively ma’am ed, even on cold calls, since. But visually sometimes it drives me nuts thinking about it.

I discount men, I know why they are looking at me. But I still occasionally get a “look”, usually from a matronly middle aged woman. Almost always it strikes me as either a questioning look or a there is a tall girl look - but sometimes I do see the other look and I think I’m being clocked.

It’s an odd puzzle - at the same time I play coed softball, no one has questioned my gender. I also play in my city’s very competitive amateur women’s basketball league, and again no one has questioned me as a woman at all.

I know other full time TS women who are just happy they’ve transitioned and can wear a dress now and then - they don’t care - and most sound like James Earl Jones when they talk as well.

I will not be totally at peace till everyone everywhere and in any circumstance don’t at all question me as a full fledged female. That’s why I will in the next few years undergo more surgery, mostly facially - as much for me as others - though my face has softened and become more feminine ( I am not brow bossed at all, my nose is fine, I was halfway there before I even started) I can still see vestiges of the old me there.

I also have Denae’s vol 1 intro video, just ordered vol 2, and will order all six of them - they are very helpful.

Just a last thought about confidence - it’s crucial but the rest of it, the preponderance of clues, has to say woman too.

]]> by: Jamie Renae http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-481 Thu, 21 Jun 2007 13:18:06 +0000 http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-481 I have to agree with "C" completly. We, as Cross Dressers, need to come to realize that we can only present our best so that we are comfortable in public. I spend quite a bit of time out enfemme and have come to realize that some people just dont notice,some react, and the rest dont care. I have experienced this mostly in Fayetteville Arkansas. Not your most likely place to find acceptance. I have also spent time in large cities and traveled by air, car and cruise ship. I also feel that if we pass too good we are not doing our job. We, as out TG Women, need to consider the others that are not as comfortable with being out in public. The more the public sees us as "well dressed guys" the more accustomed they will be to accepting us as a fact of life and not a threat to them. Jamie R I have to agree with “C” completly. We, as Cross Dressers, need to come to realize that we can only present our best so that we are comfortable in public. I spend quite a bit of time out enfemme and have come to realize that some people just dont notice,some react, and the rest dont care.
I have experienced this mostly in Fayetteville Arkansas. Not your most likely place to find acceptance. I have also spent time in large cities and traveled by air, car and cruise ship.
I also feel that if we pass too good we are not doing our job. We, as out TG Women, need to consider the others that are not as comfortable with being out in public. The more the public sees us as “well dressed guys” the more accustomed they will be to accepting us as a fact of life and not a threat to them.
Jamie R

]]> by: Renee http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-442 Tue, 05 Jun 2007 13:44:34 +0000 http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-442 What is it to be passable when dressed en femme. This is a huge question and has different meanings for all of us. When we first start dressing, we want to be viewed as a women and not a "guy in a dress". We worry about it until it becomes a stessful thing all the way around. Is the makeup good enough, is the style of dress good enough and on and on. We strive to look like a women and we yearn for a "job well done" comment from someone.... anyone.... and we feel great when we get the comment....... we finally pass. But is this really passing? Look around you when you are in an airport or large gathering, and you will see women of all shapes, sizes, looks and dress. Not all of them are great looking, and some are drop dead gorgeous, but there is something else that they have that we crossdressers for the most part do not. They have huge confidence in who they are, what they are trying to project as image and they send a statement out to all about what they want you to think about them after you view the entire package in front of you. Think about what I just said. Passing is not totally about looks only, it is a state of mind. It is confidence in how you look, what type of image you are trying to project and your own self confidence. It is all about selling yourself and your image to the public. It is about perception. In sales, if you don't believe in your product, then the buying public will not believe in it either and you won't make the sale. If you believe, then that belief is projected and the sale is closed. Ladies, close the sale on yourself. Believe who you are, stop being nervous, and you will find a whole new world out there that says you pass. Passing is perception on the other persons part. Live the part, go out with the confidence level that a real women has. Create the aura that attracks people to you, a silent power that many women already have, and you will be viewed as passable and you won't be picked apart. I have been in situations where very close friends of mine didn't even know that the women sitting next to them was me. They were polite and started some small talk and then when they found out it was me, they were stupified and couldn't believe it. I was Renee at the time, and I was imersed in the Renee culture..... a middle aged women, professionaly dressed, confident and sending a message to the public that said, I am Renee and you know you want to meet me, you are just waiting for me to make the first move, because you don't know how to make the apporach because of the aura that I created. I have had GG's talk amongst themselves and ask if they should hold the door for "her" or not. This is not just because of the look, but it is because of the confidence level that Renee has as a women and the perception that she creates for the viewing public. We talk about kids being brutal. Do you think that this only happens to crossdresser or transgendered people. This happens to all people because kids are just brutal now days and many don't have respect for people..... just a new generation trait. Believe in yourself, project the total image when dressed, and I promise you, you will be passable. IF you don't believe in yourself, then a nervousness will still be projected and the viewing public will pick up on that, and you will become non passable in public. Remember, perception, self confidence and knowing who you are....... these are the main keys to being passable. The other things are just cosmetic. Believe on the inside, and the image you want to project will find its way to the outside. Good luck ladies. Renee What is it to be passable when dressed en femme. This is a huge question and has different meanings for all of us. When we first start dressing, we want to be viewed as a women and not a “guy in a dress”. We worry about it until it becomes a stessful thing all the way around. Is the makeup good enough, is the style of dress good enough and on and on. We strive to look like a women and we yearn for a “job well done” comment from someone…. anyone…. and we feel great when we get the comment……. we finally pass. But is this really passing? Look around you when you are in an airport or large gathering, and you will see women of all shapes, sizes, looks and dress. Not all of them are great looking, and some are drop dead gorgeous, but there is something else that they have that we crossdressers for the most part do not. They have huge confidence in who they are, what they are trying to project as image and they send a statement out to all about what they want you to think about them after you view the entire package in front of you. Think about what I just said. Passing is not totally about looks only, it is a state of mind. It is confidence in how you look, what type of image you are trying to project and your own self confidence. It is all about selling yourself and your image to the public. It is about perception. In sales, if you don’t believe in your product, then the buying public will not believe in it either and you won’t make the sale. If you believe, then that belief is projected and the sale is closed. Ladies, close the sale on yourself. Believe who you are, stop being nervous, and you will find a whole new world out there that says you pass. Passing is perception on the other persons part. Live the part, go out with the confidence level that a real women has. Create the aura that attracks people to you, a silent power that many women already have, and you will be viewed as passable and you won’t be picked apart. I have been in situations where very close friends of mine didn’t even know that the women sitting next to them was me. They were polite and started some small talk and then when they found out it was me, they were stupified and couldn’t believe it. I was Renee at the time, and I was imersed in the Renee culture….. a middle aged women, professionaly dressed, confident and sending a message to the public that said, I am Renee and you know you want to meet me, you are just waiting for me to make the first move, because you don’t know how to make the apporach because of the aura that I created. I have had GG’s talk amongst themselves and ask if they should hold the door for “her” or not. This is not just because of the look, but it is because of the confidence level that Renee has as a women and the perception that she creates for the viewing public. We talk about kids being brutal. Do you think that this only happens to crossdresser or transgendered people. This happens to all people because kids are just brutal now days and many don’t have respect for people….. just a new generation trait.
Believe in yourself, project the total image when dressed, and I promise you, you will be passable. IF you don’t believe in yourself, then a nervousness will still be projected and the viewing public will pick up on that, and you will become non passable in public. Remember, perception, self confidence and knowing who you are……. these are the main keys to being passable. The other things are just cosmetic. Believe on the inside, and the image you want to project will find its way to the outside.

Good luck ladies.

Renee

]]> by: Jolene http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-435 Sun, 03 Jun 2007 08:06:46 +0000 http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-435 Hi, Thanks, C, for writing such a thoughtful and thorough post. You have expressed eloquently that the most important thing is to be comfortable with yourself and happy. Hi,

Thanks, C, for writing such a thoughtful and thorough post.

You have expressed eloquently that the most important thing is to be comfortable with yourself and happy.

]]> by: heather rols http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-390 Sun, 20 May 2007 05:06:00 +0000 http://femimage.com/blog/2007/05/19/passingan-article-written-by-a-cd/#comment-390 What a wonderful article, thanks for taking the time to write it! I'd have to agree with that definition is really found within the person in a root kind of way I imagine. It is for me. I know that point where I am who I am and that contentness when that process for self succeedes, it's just kind of, oh, yeah, thanks, when a wife or girlfriend say what a hot girl I am, or how beautiful I look. An awesome experiance not to be denied or minimized at all, but figguring that place within each of us, that oh, yes, ok this is it, makes all the negitivity all of us combined have experianced, at least for me, a bump in the parking lot. I really hope that came out right lol. What a wonderful article, thanks for taking the time to write it!
I’d have to agree with that definition is really found within the person in a root kind of way I imagine. It is for me. I know that point where I am who I am and that contentness when that process for self succeedes, it’s just kind of, oh, yeah, thanks, when a wife or girlfriend say what a hot girl I am, or how beautiful I look. An awesome experiance not to be denied or minimized at all, but figguring that place within each of us, that oh, yes, ok this is it, makes all the negitivity all of us combined have experianced, at least for me, a bump in the parking lot.
I really hope that came out right lol.

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